FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
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These are the wedding photos of my grandparents. On the left are my Taiwanese grandparents on my mother's side; on the right are my Japanese grandparents from my father's side. Up until three years ago, I didn't really think about them much. They had died quite some time ago, and I had very few memories of them— if at all. They were in the past and forgotten.
A few years ago, I started learning about Family Constellations, a process created by Bert Hellinger in the late 1970s. This modality is used to look at current personal issues within a larger context, primarily the family system. Working within the experiential "knowing field," participants experience and report the felt sensations of any being they are representing and how the beings are relating to others. This practice acknowledges truths, identifies missing elements or blocks, and moves towards resolution. When 'what has been unseen and unspoken' becomes acknowledged, we can see how the system energetically shifts into alignment. This is what Hellinger describes as The Orders of Love and classifies them into four categories.
As I stepped deeper into constellation work, I became increasingly interested in who my ancestors were, the stories they carried, and began connecting to them. I created a family tree, reached out to my long lost cousins, visited my relatives in Asia despite a language barrier, and paid respect at my grandparents' gravesites. In receiving my own constellations as a client, I discovered that the blocks in my life had been carried or passed down from generations on a unconscious level. Upon noticing where the suffering in my ancestors began, this is where my own healing would begin.
I would like to thank many constellation facilitators whom I have learned from and worked with: Ciara McArdle, Francesca Mason Boring, Sarah Peyton, Gary Stuart, Joanne Chartrand, Dyrian Benz, and Liza Miron. I am especially in gratitude to Leslie Nipps, whom I studied under for the 1:1 Constellations course and Advanced Constellation Training.
Now, photos of my grandparents sit on my home altar. I greet them every morning, honor them, and thank them for their guidance. Like a network that is interconnected, they are with me, and I am with them.
A few years ago, I started learning about Family Constellations, a process created by Bert Hellinger in the late 1970s. This modality is used to look at current personal issues within a larger context, primarily the family system. Working within the experiential "knowing field," participants experience and report the felt sensations of any being they are representing and how the beings are relating to others. This practice acknowledges truths, identifies missing elements or blocks, and moves towards resolution. When 'what has been unseen and unspoken' becomes acknowledged, we can see how the system energetically shifts into alignment. This is what Hellinger describes as The Orders of Love and classifies them into four categories.
- Acknowledging What Is
- Belonging
- Seniority
- Balance of Giving and Taking
- Taking Responsibility and Addressing Transgressions
As I stepped deeper into constellation work, I became increasingly interested in who my ancestors were, the stories they carried, and began connecting to them. I created a family tree, reached out to my long lost cousins, visited my relatives in Asia despite a language barrier, and paid respect at my grandparents' gravesites. In receiving my own constellations as a client, I discovered that the blocks in my life had been carried or passed down from generations on a unconscious level. Upon noticing where the suffering in my ancestors began, this is where my own healing would begin.
I would like to thank many constellation facilitators whom I have learned from and worked with: Ciara McArdle, Francesca Mason Boring, Sarah Peyton, Gary Stuart, Joanne Chartrand, Dyrian Benz, and Liza Miron. I am especially in gratitude to Leslie Nipps, whom I studied under for the 1:1 Constellations course and Advanced Constellation Training.
Now, photos of my grandparents sit on my home altar. I greet them every morning, honor them, and thank them for their guidance. Like a network that is interconnected, they are with me, and I am with them.
Family Constellations Workshops
Past, Present, Future-- Constellation Exercise |
Can you be with what is in the present? Are you allowing yourself to step into the future you desire? Do you hold onto the past?
In this 1.5 hour Zoom constellation exercise, the field will be set up for: the self, the past, present, and future. All participants take turns being the client and representative. We can notice how we relate to these definitions of time and what we may be clinging onto— perhaps it's our ego, identity, fear, control, or sense of safety. Admitting our "blind spots" is part of creating a shift in our awareness, which then transmits into how we engage with ourselves, others, and the world at the micro and macro level. |
Healing the Inner Child--
Constellation Exercise |
As adults, our inner child lives within us. S/he can be playful, curious, and feel joy at simple moments. When triggered, s/he might throw a tantrum, shut down, run away, or dissociate. Because the core development of our self happened by age 7, the way we learned about love and the world through our family unit influences our attachment style in romantic relationships, our belief systems, and our ability to feel safe, seen, and belong.
In this 1.5 hour Zoom constellation exercise, we will focus on healing the inner child. The field will be set up for: you, your inner child, and a resource (and how they relate to one another). |
Body, Mind, Emotions, & Spirit--
Constellation Exercise |
What awareness and connection do you have with your body, mind, emotions, and spirit? Does one "rule" more than the other? Are they separated from each other or interconnected? How would you like to hold each of these aspects of yourself in a supportive way?
In this 1.5 hour Zoom constellation exercise, we will focus on the relationship with our mind, body, spirit, and emotions. The field will be set up for: You and your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual body (and how they relate to each other). |
Connecting with Your Ancestors--
Constellation Exercise |
Our ancestors survived much hardship, trauma, and tragedies to carry on and bring us to life. History, ancient wisdom, and unique gifts have been passed down to us through our lineage. When we connect to our ancestors, we connect to our soul. Our ancestors offer us support, healing, blessings, and guidance.
In this 1.5 hour Zoom constellation exercise, we will focus on meeting the most 'well' ancestor from your mother and father's lineage. The field will be set up for: You, your most well ancestor from your mother's lineage, and your most well ancestor from your father's lineage. This is an opportunity for you to represent yourself and create a meaningful connection to your ancestors. |
Family constellation is an approach to look at an issue from a deep, energetic level to receive clarity, insight, and peace. We aim for "movement" in the family system which then echoes out and creates change in the frequency / vibration of others involved. This breaks patterns or states that we may be stuck in within ourselves, our relationships, and our lives.
Tammy offers a unique combination of family constellations and channeling over Skype or Zoom. The cost is USD $125—$175 sliding scale for a 1.5—2 hour private session. Please contact me for further information.
Tammy offers a unique combination of family constellations and channeling over Skype or Zoom. The cost is USD $125—$175 sliding scale for a 1.5—2 hour private session. Please contact me for further information.
Tammy is amazing, a true humble healer. From the moment you are in her presence, you feel calm and secure. She guides you on a journey like you have certainly never experienced in Family Constellations, making it easy for you to share and ‘step in’ just how much feels comfortable for you while she holds that safe space. Since our session, I have certainly felt shifts in my life that I attribute to it. I highly recommend everyone to try a session and see what comes up for you. - Lisa Byrd Nesser Chiang Mai, Thailand
